Finding someone right for you

Guys -

How do you know when you have found someone right for you? (Please comment if you care to share)

I used to be idealistic, until one woman was able to utterly crush my innocent little thoughts in a systematic massacre like the holocaust. Now in the aftermath of the utopia that I thought as reality, I turned into a lot more patient and understanding person. With that come these thoughts...

Someone right for you is the person who matches you in as many ways as possible. Physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. Someone who shows you mercy when there's no reason to. Gives to you when she has nothing to gain from it. When you can't shock and awe her with glit and glammer. This is still pretty idealistic...

On the flip side, you have to be a person who's able to find someone right for you. You gotta believe and be optimistic (not jaded). Here a quote that sums it up, "The secret to success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes." Basically, to have someone be right for you, you have to be right for her. Otherwise, it was wrong. Just swallow it and move on.

Girls -

I would like to know from as many girls as possible what they feel makes the right man for them. Remember to differentiate between what you FEEL you want versus what you really want when you see it. Please email me your thoughts and in return, as an incentive, I'll randomly pick one of you to recieve a $100 Banana Republic gift certificate that I have sitting at my house. I also have a flurry of other gifts that I bought for certain people and never got to them, if you'd like those instead. Please send email to ksaftermath@yahoo.com.